There is a public service announcement on PBS that shows a small child playing, his dad sits watching his boy. The child peaks into a small stack of tires, he runs, he plays. A bigger kid wearing a mask, growls and frightens the child who hightails it back to daddy who opens his arms wide. After a few encouraging words from daddy the child returns to the fun of exploring and having a good time.

  Parents are their child’s safety net and teaching your child to be safe as they grow and explore is one of a parents most important jobs. With so many potential threats to worry about, that can seem overwhelming. So, what can you do to help your kid? For one thing they need to know that it is OK to say “No” and “Stop.” 

• Discuss safety calmly. You want your children to be careful, not terrified. When you talk about safety matters, emphasize that your main concern is their welfare. Listen to their concerns, and answer their questions as clearly and honestly as you can.

• Highlight important information. Be sure your younger children know their home phone number and address, as well as contact information for another relative or trusted adult.

• Don’t just talk about strangers. Let children know they should tell you anytime they’re made uncomfortable by someone’s behavior, even if they know the person well.

• Play “what if?” Rules and advice can be too abstract for young minds to understand. Make it real by asking children what they would do in certain situations: If a stranger tried to get them into a car, for example, or if they got lost in a shopping mall.

• Discuss body issues. Let your children know that no one should be allowed to touch them in personal areas. Teach them what areas you’re talking about, with the proper names, so they can tell you accurately if something happens. The phrase “Just say no” is so appropriate here.  Teach your little one to follow his or her instincts, if a touch feels wrong, it probably is.   

• Listen, listen, listen. Oh, yeh, listen. If your child says I don’t this or that person or does not like the person anymore, find out why. Never insist that people must be liked or tolerated because they are family, etc.